First, identify what causes stress in your life
How do you deal with stress?
- Look closely at your daily habits
- Until you accept responsibility for the role you play in determining your own stress in your life, your stress will continue to control you
- Start a journal that can help you identify your regular stressors in your life
- What caused your stress?
- How did you deal with the stress both physically and emotionally?
- What do you do to feel better?
- How long was the stress (temporary or permanent basis)?
- Is stress part of your home life, work life, or it is integral to your personality?
Learn about healthier ways to manage stress
- Look and think of ways you are currently dealing with stress
- Be sure to say away from unhealthy ways of coping with stress (smoking, overeating or undereating, sleeping too much, and procrastination)
Avoid unnecessary stress
- If your methods of dealing with stress aren't affecting your emotional or physical health in a positive way, then it is time to find healthier stress relievers
- There are four ways to choosing a healthier life:
Alter the situation
- Learn how to say no. Don't take on more than you can handle. You are the best judge of this.
- Avoid people who are stressing you out (if possible).
- Take control of your environment
- Avoid hot button topics. Don't talk about things which make you upset.
- Pare down your to do list. Distinguish between the "shoulds" and the "musts" on your to do list, and don't put tasks which are not necessary on your list.
Adapt to the stressor
- Express your feelings instead of bottling them up. Let someone know if there is something that is bothering you.
- Be willing to compromise
- Be more assertive. Do your best to anticipate and prevent problems.
- Manage your time better. Poor time management can create a lot of stress.
Accept the things that you can't change
- Reframe the problem. Look at problems or circumstances that you face from a positive point of view.
- Look at the big picture. Will this particular stressor be important to me in the long run? Ask yourself is it really worth getting yourself worked up for? You can focus your energy elsewhere if the stressor isn't that important to you.
- Adjust your standards. Nobody is perfect, and you could be setting yourself up for failure if your demand perfection. Set reasonable standards for you and the people around you.
- Focus on the positives. Take a moment to think about all of those things that make you happy and appreciate life.
Finally, adopt a healthy lifestyle
- Don't try to control the uncontrollable. There are many things which are beyond our control. A good way to cope with this is to focus on the things that you can control.
- Look for the upside. Try looking at opportunities that are stressful and challenging as ways to grow and develop as a person. Reflect on the decision that you have made (good or bad), and learn from the decisions.
- Share your feelings. Tell someone what is going on. It could be a roommate, a friend, a chaplin, just tell someone.
- Learn to forgive. Nobody is perfect in the world, and we must come to terms with this. We will get hurt by the ones that means a lot to us, but we can make this stressful situation better if we can forgive.
- Exercise regularly. Exercising plays a role in reducing the stress on a person. At a minimum, you should make time for 30 minutes of exercise for three days a week.
- Eat a healthy diet.
- Reduce caffeine and sugar intake. Caffeine and sugar are usually associated with crash and burn periods. By consuming coffee, soft drinks, chocolate, and sugar snacks, people often experience highs in energy, followed by lows as their energy energy crashes.
- Avoid alcohol, cigarettes, and drugs.
- Get enough sleep. Being tired increases your stress because you are not able to function the next day.